How not to come across as a creep !

Being a girl I am sure all of us at some point in our lives came across guys who were complete psychos and creeps. That being said I know there are a lot of genuine and decent guys out there who had been labelled as creeps without any fault of theirs. Since every girl once in a while go through some wired incidence on social networking platforms it becomes difficult to understand the difference between a good boy and a creepy boy!

So I have tried to make a list of things which guys sometimes do which makes them appear weird and "creepy".

• Never write your very first message to a random girl as " you look so beautiful and lovely dear" I mean come on you don't straight away say "dear" "babe" "baby" to a girl you don't really know. It's weird and annoying.
• Please don't like 8 or 10 years old pictures on Facebook of any unknown girl. It's going to freak her out and it is a clear indication that your are stalking her.
• Don't try too hard to impress. Just be cool and please for the love of God don't force yourself to write in English when you know you are not really good at it. Just write good even in Hindi for that matter because incorrect grammar and poor sentence formation will make her disinterested.
• Try not to let your creativity overshadow your true self and by that I mean kindly refrain from using 'ã' '$' '¢' these characters in your profile name or username.
• Not every girl is interested in knowing how many luxury cars you own or how many times you went aboard. If you genuinely want to know someone don't intimidate them by showing off.
• Also, please don't spam her account by messaging her way to much. Chances are she might be busy or ignoring you , take the hint!

Also there is no need to like or comment on each and every picture she uploads if you have just started talking. It's not going to put you in her good books.

Just stay cool and go with the flow; don't try to rush things.

And for the girls, if a guy seems genuine and nice do give him a chance!
😁

'The catch'

Being in India I’m sure all of us have been fascinated by the larger than life romantic sagas shown in movies and t.v. series.

The romantic genre is such that we can’t help getting mesmerized by it. Every romantic story (most of the times) shows a boy trying hard to woo his lady love. He chases her, sernade for her and try every trick in the book to win her over and then , when that happens they both fall in love and live happily ever after.

We see these stories on the big screen ,on the television and every where else and no matter how unromantic we think we are and no matter how rubbish all that seems to us ; at some point  we do think “oh, I wish somebody loves me like that!”

We hope for our own fairytale love story and then ,a happily everafter.
But here’s ‘the catch’ happily ever after doesn’t exist in real life. We can find a person to fall in love with and spend the rest of our lives together but it will be unfair to expect that the journey would be smooth; there will be bumps along the way and we must be ready for that.

But before that we must realise that we will come across many guys who will make us believe that they truly love us and will try to sweep us off our feet and we may believe them and fall in love head over heels but not all will stick around forever. Some will and some won’t.

 So then, how do we know if we are falling in love the right person?

The truth is we can never know and that’s why we can never really escape a heartbreak. Love is a wonderful feeling and we cannot hold back ourselves from it for long . If someone breaks your heart you should cry a river once to pour out all the pain and then , get over it.

  They say,”you have to kiss many frogs to finally find your prince!”

   Remember that! ❤

When people you love change....

Whenever I used to see people break up whether in a relationship or friendship I used to wonder why they would do that. I used to think "how come these people are not friends any more?" Or "why did those guys split up? They used to look so much in love."

I think now I can understand why things sometimes go downhill and not remain'the same'. According to me, over a period of time things change in every relationship, people acquire different jobs, lifestyle and tastes . we cannot be the same person we were a few years ago and we cannot expect someone else to be that too! We do change and so does the other person. And that change is the thing we are most afraid of. People change their goals, aspirations, country , the person they love and a number of things with time.

It is possible that you will not have time to spend together. The phone calls would become less, you may not see each other more often and so on . Things never remain sweet and sugar coated all the time. But they don't remain ugly too! These changes are possible and I know that they're scary.

It is indeed difficult to see people you love change, it's difficult to let them go. I know people say that you should fight to make them stay but is it right on our part to hold back someone who is not happy to be with us?

If two people want to be together the effort should be from both sides. And if it's not ,then you know the answer. I think it's always better to end things on a good note. You were great friends but things changed and so did priorities and it's okay!
You should have only good memories to remember them by.
That's what I think.

Why are we afraid of saying 'I love you' ??

After seeing some major movies , t.v series , observing things around me and being through some personal experiences I have realised that we are actually afraid of saying the three magical words 'I love you'.
Well, being in love is great and truly fulfilling. It gives you the feeling of being desirable and wanted. But the problem is that we can never know if we are actually in 'Love' with somebody. For some people including me, love is too great a feeling and it is extremely intimidating to actually believe that you really love somebody or somebody loves you. Sometimes being in love can also be confused with having a crush on somebody. But then you can get over a crush but you cannot get over the person you love.

I think some people are scared of love because love calls for a solid commitment which is not easy to give for most people. The epic and timeless love stories that we see ,read and listen has increased our expectations from love. Frankly, guys you can't expect your story to be like that of Romeo & Juliet . In real world your story can't always have a dramatic, sad or happy ending.
And also your story is unique because it's yours.

The thing about love is you cannot decide when, how and with whom you will fall in love. And if you are with someone for a long time and you are still not sure if you really love them then, ask yourself,  if you still want to stay with them , if you wait to see them everyday, if you still like talking to them, if you know everything about them and still want to discover, if you cannot imagine sharing your food, problems and everyday gossips with anyone else then these little things are far better than saying I Love You!!❤


Also, love  causes heartbreaks and if someone had been through a bad relationship or if someone had been in one sided love they won't consider giving love a second chance. They might resist the idea of it. Everyone has their own baggage and that's okay! But just because it didn't work out the first time or if someone didn't love you back doesn't mean that you will do the same with someone else too.

I know this feeling is scary but you should let yourself free to embrace it. When you do that all the pain and negativity will go away.Always give love another chance and don't be too scared of saying 'I Love You' if you love that special person in your life it's not going to freak them out! 😂😂

What's being on the hook?

So, yesterday I was watching 'how I met your mother'. What a lovely T.V series it is!( Coming back to the point ) .There was this particular episode in which it was shown how Ted Mosbey was 'on the hook' of this girl and how she was never ready to commit to him but was just taking him along the way. I felt bad for him at that point, but then when I thought about this concept of 'being on the hook' I realized that it totally applies in the real world too! 

In one way or the other if we closely observe we're on someone's hook all the time if we clearly see that,I know this sounds terrible. But the sliver lining is knowingly or unknowingly we also have someone on our hook at any point of time. 

So as Barney had said in HIMYM we always keep someone on our hook because it gives us a sense of desirability , it makes us feel wanted and cool. So, quite often although we don't realize it we never 'clearly' tell someone we don't have feelings for them if he/she tell us that they have feelings for us. 

There was this particular situation back in my school time when I used to like this boy he was quite popular in school and he had a charming personality. Although we were good friends but he kind of knew that I liked him but then he never told me that he didn't  have any feelings for me whatsoever and I couldn't figure that out either until recently that he was just keeping me on the hook! 

But then I also realized now that I also had this particular boy on my hook for quite some time because I liked the idea that someone liked me and moreover it gave  me confidence and self boost (this excuse is not good enough though)

So for now as I am off the hook of boy 1 I have let go of boy2 off my hook. (Lol!) 

But seriously speaking, as I have observed- The very first explanation of doing that is because we genuinely don't wish to hurt them.And the other explanation is that we wish to keep them on our hook because everyone likes to feel wanted! 

There's nothing bad in it because each one of us is or has been on someone's hook at some point of time if we can clearly see.😄

The blogger in the making 😊

   Hello, people!
This is my very first blog post and I really want to use this to introduce myself to all of you who may find me somewhere while scrolling through the internet. 😁
Well, I love interacting with people and therefore I have this blog to share my opinions, jokes, and experiences with you guys. And hopefully I am looking forward to hearing from you what  your ideas and opinions on things are.

I am neither a critic nor an expert on many things but I am a learner and a bit of a motivational speaker.😃
My only goal right now is to make people smile and connect with them because I have heard that smile gives us strength and knowledge grows when shared .

These two things keeps me going !

Have a wonderful day people✌
From- thatgirlwithspecs