'The catch'

Being in India I’m sure all of us have been fascinated by the larger than life romantic sagas shown in movies and t.v. series.

The romantic genre is such that we can’t help getting mesmerized by it. Every romantic story (most of the times) shows a boy trying hard to woo his lady love. He chases her, sernade for her and try every trick in the book to win her over and then , when that happens they both fall in love and live happily ever after.

We see these stories on the big screen ,on the television and every where else and no matter how unromantic we think we are and no matter how rubbish all that seems to us ; at some point  we do think “oh, I wish somebody loves me like that!”

We hope for our own fairytale love story and then ,a happily everafter.
But here’s ‘the catch’ happily ever after doesn’t exist in real life. We can find a person to fall in love with and spend the rest of our lives together but it will be unfair to expect that the journey would be smooth; there will be bumps along the way and we must be ready for that.

But before that we must realise that we will come across many guys who will make us believe that they truly love us and will try to sweep us off our feet and we may believe them and fall in love head over heels but not all will stick around forever. Some will and some won’t.

 So then, how do we know if we are falling in love the right person?

The truth is we can never know and that’s why we can never really escape a heartbreak. Love is a wonderful feeling and we cannot hold back ourselves from it for long . If someone breaks your heart you should cry a river once to pour out all the pain and then , get over it.

  They say,”you have to kiss many frogs to finally find your prince!”

   Remember that! ❤

What's being on the hook?

So, yesterday I was watching 'how I met your mother'. What a lovely T.V series it is!( Coming back to the point ) .There was this particular episode in which it was shown how Ted Mosbey was 'on the hook' of this girl and how she was never ready to commit to him but was just taking him along the way. I felt bad for him at that point, but then when I thought about this concept of 'being on the hook' I realized that it totally applies in the real world too! 

In one way or the other if we closely observe we're on someone's hook all the time if we clearly see that,I know this sounds terrible. But the sliver lining is knowingly or unknowingly we also have someone on our hook at any point of time. 

So as Barney had said in HIMYM we always keep someone on our hook because it gives us a sense of desirability , it makes us feel wanted and cool. So, quite often although we don't realize it we never 'clearly' tell someone we don't have feelings for them if he/she tell us that they have feelings for us. 

There was this particular situation back in my school time when I used to like this boy he was quite popular in school and he had a charming personality. Although we were good friends but he kind of knew that I liked him but then he never told me that he didn't  have any feelings for me whatsoever and I couldn't figure that out either until recently that he was just keeping me on the hook! 

But then I also realized now that I also had this particular boy on my hook for quite some time because I liked the idea that someone liked me and moreover it gave  me confidence and self boost (this excuse is not good enough though)

So for now as I am off the hook of boy 1 I have let go of boy2 off my hook. (Lol!) 

But seriously speaking, as I have observed- The very first explanation of doing that is because we genuinely don't wish to hurt them.And the other explanation is that we wish to keep them on our hook because everyone likes to feel wanted! 

There's nothing bad in it because each one of us is or has been on someone's hook at some point of time if we can clearly see.😄